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Stress Management for Children
Children, teens, and their parents are under more stress than ever. Lists of "things to do” and "stars to reach for” grow longer. More to do means more stress to manage. This advice about stress management for children may seem ironic but holds true: When your child or teenager seems stressed by a busy schedule, schedule some time for free play.
Free play offers an excellent opportunity for parents to interact with their children and teenagers. Both children and their parents can realize benefits. Playtime is a great time for bonding, laughing, relaxing, and enjoying one another.
Playtime or unstructured downtime options are many and diverse—arts and crafts, hanging out with friends or instant messaging them via the computer, writing in a journal, cooking part of the family meal, or simply daydreaming. Children and adolescents benefit from unstructured but constructive, self-directed time to have fun. Obviously, organized sports with uniforms and the pressure to win do not count as free play. Watching television or video gaming doesn’t count either.
Young people have less time for free play today because of busier lives and greater emphasis on academics and enrichment activities. Yet, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), play is important in promoting healthy child development and maintaining strong parent bonds. Play "contributes to the cognitive, physical, social, and emotional well-being of children and youth,” emphasizes the AAP.
What Is Stress?
Stress is a normal and necessary part of life. Stress can be positive or negative—depending on how someone handles the situation and the resources that are available. Also, what is stressful for one person may not be for another. For example, one person may view a stressful experience like changing schools as an exciting challenge. Someone else might feel nervous and insecure. How individuals handle stress differs, too. Most reactions fit into the categories of fight, flight, or freeze.
The consequences of stress are far reaching. Research shows a strong relationship between stress and substance abuse. Stress can alter a person’s physiology and contribute to the development of such illnesses as high blood pressure, diabetes, and addiction. Children and adolescents who are stressed may show signs of emotional problems, aggressive behavior, shyness, anxiety, and fear in social situations.
Can Stress Be Managed?
Yes. Stress management for children and adolescents begins with recognizing the causes of stress. Some examples are a fight with a friend or a sibling, an upcoming test, a new school, a family conflict, and, of course, overscheduling. Choices about drinking, smoking, drugs, and sex, along with fears about violence, are common stressors for adolescents.
Symptoms of stress are not always obvious in children and youth. An adult might say, "I am stressed out.” Instead, a young person may complain, "My stomach hurts.”
Overscheduled children and adolescents are more likely to experience anxiety, especially about their performance. They may not want to go to school or participate in activities. They may experience sleep interruptions and changes in their eating patterns.
When stressors and symptoms occur, parents can use a variety of practical strategies such as changing their child’s schedule or seeking mental health counseling. Parents can offer more unscheduled time for good, old-fashioned play. Play helps children and adolescents manage stress and reach their full potential.
Young people often are overscheduled with structured activities, according to Dr. T. Berry Brazelton, a well-known pediatrician and child development expert affiliated with Harvard Medical School. "They are missing the chance they have to dream, to fantasize, to make their own world work the way they want it. That to me is a very important part of childhood,” he said in praising the AAP report.
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