There really is no such thing as a perfect parent. There is such a thing though, as being an available parent. I know this, because I believe I’m one of them.
I’m far from perfect, but ever since my child was young, my style of parenting mimics much of the information found in the book, “The Available Parent.”
This book, by Dr. John Duffy, strives to help parents become “available.” It’s filled with real stories from teens and parents of teens, and explains teenagers in general and all of the issues they may go through.
The book discusses what never works, and what always works, and includes a sample Behavioral Contract.
There may be parents who don’t agree with some of the information in this book — I personally don’t prefer to lump all teens into one category like they can all be parented the same way.
I tend to agree with many of the tips listed under the topic, “What Never Works.” Some of those tips have to do with lecturing, micromanaging, underestimating, judging, smothering, overindulgence…etc. I have an open relationship with my child… I always have. For example, passwords are no secret, permission to create online accounts is always asked and issues with friends are often discussed… not because I demand it, but because I have always made it a part of our lives. I’ve always been “available” for my child, so she could come to me to discuss things because she wants to. It’s not wrong or uncool these days for parents to have their teenagers as Facebook friends, or for parents and teens to text each other. It’s called being available.
Cool parents don’t have to allow free reign to their children. They just have to listen and actually be there for them… not only in a physical state, but emotionally as well.
It’s never too late to begin a new relationship with your child, though it’s best to begin when your child is young. I agree that when it comes to your children, you should ask & listen. You can enjoy your children and still be a parent, if you continue to communicate with them after they become teenagers.
MyParenTime.com recommends this book — if you don’t have an open relationship with your child, this book will help you discover ways to be there for them.
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